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Saturday, June 25, 2016

When Fear Hits

I guess it was about four years ago now, when the first sign of a problem came - sharp pain, swelling under my right arm - an immediate visit to my physician revealed a probable breast cyst upon which a mammogram, ultrasound, and visit to a surgeon later confirmed.  Okay, that scare turned out fine - I can deal with this, although at times it was pretty painful and as the years moved on it became rather annoying.

Fast forward to 2016, and my husband saying "that feels pretty hard, should you go back to the doctor" ... and me brushing the comment off with the description of what a cyst should feel like and my symptoms haven't changed ...  yada yada yada.

March arrived and the "cyst" I knew I had began to grow rapidly and became very painful.  Let's just say after about two weeks it was huge - I compared it to a Cadbury Easter Egg as it was the season of Easter candy.  Another immediate visit to my physician prompted another mammogram with a report back that I needed further studies done, namely a breast biopsy.  Here comes the fear again!

The waiting can be too much when you let your mind wander instead of placing your fears in God's Hands - lesson learned (for now). I consulted with a friend of mine regarding a good facility for the biopsy and am SO glad she recommended the new MaineGeneral Breast Care Center here in Maine.  God knew the people I would need surrounding me as I was told this is NOT cystic in nature and a breast biopsy was performed. Now, having a breast biopsy is not as scary as I imagined - performed via ultrasound, the area was numbed very well, I felt some pressure where the instrument was pushing on my side and I had an almost uncomfortable feeling as the physician worked closer to the nipple, but overall not a bad procedure. In fact, I went to work a couple hours later because I was feeling fine - not the best idea probably as after about four hours all of the numbing agent had worn off and I was quite uncomfortable with a sharp ache which continued for several hours despite OTC pain meds - but, by morning, I was fine.

What if this is cancerous?  How will I tell our son and daughter-in-law? How could I ever get to the place of having to say goodbye to my only child?  A week of tears and fear and prayer led me to week two where I had my grit back and was determined to fight this for sure!  But there were new questions - What will surgery entail? What will I look like?  What will I look like with no hair if treatments are needed? Will I have a job to return to if this process takes months? among other questions.

The biopsy results came back as a Phyllodes tumor, benign, but must be removed as it is aggressive and can become cancerous if left untreated.  The day arrived to meet the surgeon and discuss what needed to be done - I had my notebook with questions, feeling prepared.  Now, I am not a well endowed woman and the surgeon revealed that the tumor was large and taking enough margin around it would leave me very disfigured so he would recommend a mastectomy with reconstruction - WHAT!  That was not on my list of questions!  As my husband and I walked to the car, I began to shake and could not even begin to comprehend what we both knew was the obvious cure/treatment.  Now to schedule a time with the plastic surgeon's team.

Once again, with my notebook in hand and my husband by my side, the plastic surgeon sat down with me to discuss my diagnosis and treatment options.  His recommendation - a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction - WHAT!  Whoa back!  WHAT! One reason to consider a bilateral is proactive so you don't have to face future problems in the good breast and secondly (as a friend of mine put it) "you can't make the new one sag like the old one" - while he would do his best to create a new breast and augment the untouched breast, I would face "adjustment" surgery in the years to come and it would always be a reminder of the trauma I had been through.  WOW!  Too much information to comprehend and a whole new set of questions began running through my head.  That was another long walk to the car.

One thing that got me through these days/weeks, besides my awesome husband, is my mother-in-law - she had a single mastectomy about 25 years ago without the option of reconstruction as back then that was a vanity thing and not likely covered by insurance.  Despite how she tells me now I went through more than she did, she is the strongest person I know - the rock I want to be for others and the purpose of this blog - to walk others through the process and make it a little less scary.

With much prayer and my fears very real, the decision was made, we were ready for the next step - preparing for surgery. Yeeha!

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